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Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire
Title | Sexual Fluidity: Understanding Women’s Love and Desire |
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Date | 2024-11-20 19:08:34 |
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Desciption
Is love “blind” when it comes to gender? For women, it just might be. This unsettling and original book offers a radical new understanding of the context-dependent nature of female sexuality. Lisa M. Diamond argues that for some women, love and desire are not rigidly heterosexual or homosexual but fluid, changing as women move through the stages of life, various social groups, and, most important, different love relationships. This perspective clashes with traditional views of sexual orientation as a stable and fixed trait. But that view is based on research conducted almost entirely on men. Diamond is the first to study a large group of women over time. She has tracked one hundred women for more than ten years as they have emerged from adolescence into adulthood. She summarizes their experiences and reviews research ranging from the psychology of love to the biology of sex differences. Sexual Fluidity offers moving first-person accounts of women falling in and out of love with men or women at different times in their lives. For some, gender becomes irrelevant: “I fall in love with the person, not the gender,” say some respondents. Sexual Fluidity offers a new understanding of women’s sexuality―and of the central importance of love. Read more
Review
The beginning is a bit dense with details of research but at least we get a good idea of how painstakingly thorough and fair the studies were. The rest of the book is just brilliant. All the preconceived notions of sexuality, (how binary it should be, that it is static, etc) are illuminated for what they are- misleading. Or at least mere stabs at defining something we can't define with logic. I found great comfort in this book as someone who is very sexually fluid and unable to label myself, try as I might! It gave me reassurance that I'm not weird or confused, and in fact, that I'm perfectly normal and healthy. Aside from my own personal experience with this book, I believe it is much needed dialog for everyone. We are still stuck in binary thinking about sexuality. The author points out that we should change our approach to sexuality and stop trying to label or force it in one way or another. Just let it be and encourage people to be free to be themselves without putting themselves through the ringer or anyone else. To live and learn and not judge. I couldn't agree more!